Poke Me Not!

Its exam time again…so what am I doing here? Online & blogging? Not just blogging…I’m texting & active on Facebook as well! Multiple tabs in Firefox rocks, doesn’t it? Multiple time-wasting, the latest trend to hit the youth. Last night I logged into GTalk to ‘relax’ for an hour. 2hours later I was still chatting. Friends came & went, not a moment of boredom. And meanwhile a war of words was being ensued in the comments section of one of my pictures in Facebook. 2am I logged out finally, having just about enough energy to grab the quilt and snore! (hey, I don’t snore ok, that’s just an expression)

It’s a friend of mine who asked me for an article on this topic-is social networking making today’s youth more unsocial?

After last night I decided yes, they did. Not just because I wasted time chatting when I should be studying, but because nowadays I hardly talk to people (and by that I don’t mean voice-chat). Except at meal times, I hardly glance at Mom or Pa. And I just interact with my sister when I yell at her to get outta my room, that’s not exactly socializing is it?

My poor boyfriend is threatening he’ll turn gay if I continue ignoring him (he’s too good to leave me for another gal). And my not-online friends are just the happy faces smiling at me from the contacts list in my phone. All I remember of them is who sends Santa-Banta jokes and who sends Rajnikanth PJ’s!( coming to that, I hate those jokes, man they are called PJ’s for a reason!)

My world is fogged by pokes & messages and comments. As if having an internet connection on PC wasn’t enough I went & bought a smart-phone (E5) and got mobile internet. As if that wasn’t enough, I activated Facebook text alerts too! Now whether am eating, sleeping or whatever I can keep in touch with my friends… you got a new dress? Wow.. ‘like’.. you got dumped? Aww.. so sad ‘ 😦 ‘ you are breathing..? Geez me too .. ‘likes’ . God, I’m even reading forwarded e-mails!

Has my life reduced to this?
Facebooked Brain

Do I buy new dresses, wear them ASAP, click a pic , upload it & eagerly wait for comments? Do I update my status, spending a whole 10minutes on a single line trying to make it witty so I get many ‘likes’? Do I randomly browse people’s albums refusing to log out even if no one is online?

Dont wanna logout?

Am I living my life in reality or virtually? And am I the only one doing so?

F.R.I.E.N.D-What I’ve Learnt From You

The 1st & oldest friend of mine is my Mom. When initially it was due to a lack of options, later it was simply the comfortable bonding that we shared.  And like all BFFs, we had our share of fights & arguments that we survived. Hers is the only advice I take seriously & she is the only one with whom I can share all spicy gossip guilt-free. Each day I try to live up to her ideals & like a true friend does-she’s made me a better person. She is & will remain my best friend, philosopher & guide-as they say!

Going down the list, I however am surprised to see the heterogeneous mixture of people I proudly call my friends! You would find every (excuse my saying so) ‘variety’ in there. Some my friends from school & later college times, some through internet & even a few through dating sites! And as I explore the wonderful world with them each day I learn something new, experience a new feeling & simply put-feel happy that they care enough to share their lives with me.

Love they say is unconditional, yet there are many unsaid lines drawn & invisible boundaries built that try to cage the other person’s soul. Friendship is liberating. It frees you, makes you what you are, what you want to be. And that is why I feel true love is best expressed in friendship.

Over the years I’ve had the pleasure of making friends all over India. The richness in culture & the distinct traits each one has never failed to amaze me. I’ve put Christmas decorations in my friend’s house on Christmas Eve, got gifts from Santa Claus (who I knew was the Uncle from the neighboring apartment) and been to church with her. I’ve also had the ecstasy of tasting sheer-korma with another friend & being laden with sweets till I thought I’d burst. And the simplicity of my Jain friend has always taught me that how true the inner you is, is what matters, not the outer mask. The list is endless-a clichéd expression yet true.

Coming to the lighter part, my friends are my source of happiness. In every materialistic or spiritual manner possible, they are the ones I look for when the selfish desire to unburden my heart arises. Or simply when I need to share a laugh. And without the needless word of commitment, I do the same for them. Learning from each other’s mistakes, correcting, admonishing & just being there, that’s what defines friendship.

I surmise my feeling for my cherished friends in a few words…

No give & take ritual of hearts was required

You gave me your hand & that has sufficed

With that you offered all that I had desired

Love, faith & trust all that cannot be priced.

Over the years we may grow apart

Distance & time, destiny’s sly hand

But I’ve caged your memory deep in my heart

I can see your smile from where I stand.

No words need fill the silence between u & I

No bonds no promises will ever bind us together

Fake worldly conventions we will always defy

And yet we remain friends forever!

Happy Friendship Day !

P.S: Normally I don’t go about praising my friends 😛

It’s ‘coz the Blogadda’s contest on Friends Forever theme sponsored by Pingroo inspired me to pen this down 🙂